I own my stories, and if that story includes another person (character), it’s still my story. Nobody said they can’t write theirs. I’m definitely sensitive with kids and friends and ask if I’m uncertain. But I won’t allow my work to be written off is revenge writing because my abusers are circling the wagons. They can say what they like, I will write the truth about them and what they did. I don’t care if they don’t like it. I didn’t like being water boarded either. If they wanted me to write nicely about them, as Anne Lamott says, they ought to have behaved better. I don’t allow people to tell me what I can and can’t write. Like I said, I ask kids and friends if it could be something they don’t want written, but apart from that I just don’t care. I’m telling my stories and won’t allow the truth to be censored by someone who decides they don’t like the story.