Yeah, I don't understand any of these attitudes but I get them all also. "Surely you can do SOMETHING" is what I hear. "Why are you too proud to flip burgers" is another. I'm not too proud, I physically can't do it and for minimum wage it wouldn't be worth it anyway because I can't raise four kids on that.

"You should have kept you legs closed" when I was married??? They all have the same father who I was married to at the time. "Shouldn't have had kids you can't afford "I was married and it seemed like we had relative stability."

There's always something, everyone has an opinion, and to think that someone enjoys being in poverty just so they don't have to work is the worst of all.